For all the caviling the LGBT community makes about being misunderstood, it’s a fact that even when I was in high school, psychology knew that the worst thing you could do with a gay kid was to force him/her to act straight. The problems it caused were utterly intolerable.
And yet today, making boys act like neutered non-boys is generally accepted, at least in academia and the public schools. And the effects are both identical and much more societally more sweeping:
Doesn’t it seem a little odd that masculinity gets blamed when some kid without a dad turns into a rapist or ends up in prison? Doesn’t it seem weird that masculinity would get blamed for a feminist ally like Harvey Weinstein, “who championed older actresses like Meryl Streep and Judi Dench, joined a Women’s March, donated to Democratic candidates, raised money for Planned Parenthood and publicly venerated Gloria Steinem”?We take a young man and kick his father out of his life, send him to school where he has mostly women teachers, barrage him with negative messages about masculinity, then turn him loose at college where we treat him like a guilty-until-proven-innocent rapist, and after all that, we blame “masculinity” when he goes off the rails despite the fact that he spent a lifetime bathed in femininity. Unsurprisingly, the more women try to change masculinity, the more negative and toxic it actually becomes. Yet, articles explaining how masculinity needs to be changed and rewired—written by women or feminized males—are practically a cottage industry these days.
The problem isn’t masculinity .It’s the forcing of genuine masculinity underground.